“I think we still live in a culture that assumes that men are single by choice and women are single because no one wants them.”
— Sara Eckel, This is Why You’re Still Single (It’s Not Why You Think) (via aprettypastiche)
Yeah? Well, I’m single because I choose not to let anyone want me.
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12:15 am • 20 April 2014 • 22,003 notes
So, I had a speech impediment when I was younger. Also, I read in my head faster than I read out loud. So, when I was asked to read out loud, I stumbled over a lot of words.
Anyway, when I was in first and second grade, the class would break into small reading groups based on reading levels. They were disguised with color names. Consistently, I was put in the “blue” group, which was the group of the second strongest readers. I would get in that group, and then read so quickly and respond with strong comprehension, and then my teacher would bump me up to the “red” group, which was the group of the strongest readers.
That’s probably the only reason I knew that the colors had anything to do with reading ability.
It got frustrating. When I was in kindergarten, I was reading at a second grade level, and by the time I was in third grade, I was reading at an eighth grade level. So I just couldn’t understand why my teacher kept putting me in the “blue” group, only to later move me to the “red” group.
It wasn’t until later, when I was in eighth grade and stumbling over words because my mind read faster than my mouth, that I realized: the assessments were failing me. When I read out loud, people thought that I could hardly read at all.
I also had a friend who had a speech impediment—mine was relatively in check by the time I left elementary school, but he dealt with his all for as long as I knew him—and as a result, he had difficulty reading out loud. The teachers assumed he couldn’t read, he stopped reading out loud all together, and he wound up in CWC classes in high school.
A handful of the kids that I took speech with in elementary school, were also in the reading assistance program. I’m not saying they didn’t need it. I don’t really know their situation. But it seems like, if they’re basing the ability to read based on the ability to read out loud, then those kids might not have needed it. In fact, it might have inspired learned helplessness.
And the moral of this story is, you should assess kids a number of ways. Otherwise, you could be stifling their abilities.
I mean, it’s also important to keep in mind that these are a very few experiences, all of which happened quite some time ago. I don’t know what literacy placements look like now, but…
I’ve heard about several instances where intelligent kids with strong literacy abilities miss out on advanced opportunities because of the types of placement tests that they have to take.
7:51 pm • 19 April 2014 • 2 notes
I talk all the time about how I don’t want kids. I mean, I guess when I’m in the exact right hormonal mood, I’ll get a very brief/sudden “I COULD HAVE KIDS” wave of emotion, but then it leaves really quickly. (Seriously, this is one major reason that I can’t ever have kids, because, dude what if I stopped wanting one 2.3 seconds after I got pregnant!?!!?)
But I do acknowledge that people change. So, it’s entirely possible that someday I’ll want kids. (I can say that, but seriously nothing will annoy me more than if I say, “I don’t want kids” and you say, “Someday you will” like you don’t know me, you don’t know my life, NOBODY CAN PREDICT THE FUTURE.)
Anyway, I sometimes think that… someday I may want kids. And then I’ll have a child. And I get really worried that everyone will tell that child that I did not want it.
"You’re mom, like, really didn’t want you,” The person says. My child looks up with shock and terror. “I mean,” the person adds, “She seems to like you now, though.”
1:23 pm • 19 April 2014
He looks so polite, like he just wants to stop by and see if you have anything for him.
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1:15 pm • 19 April 2014 • 340,522 notes
“Cinderella never asked for a prince. She asked for a night off and a dress.”
— Kiera Cass (via maxonshreaves)
12:00 pm • 19 April 2014 • 59,536 notes
Shirt: Red Racks, $3.98
Leggings: Target, $14.88
Socks: Walmart, $2.50
Shoes: Payless, $50.00
10:00 am • 19 April 2014 • 2 notes